Today our fruit of the Spirit is patience. I've heard patience described as passive love. Thusly, when God is patient, His deep love for the sinner leads Him to withhold punishment for a time. The gardener in Jesus parable pleads with his master to not cut down the barren fig tree, but rather to let it stand for another year. Then, if it is still without fruit, cut it down, he begs. Have patience, Master. Show your compassion by withholding your wrath for a time.
IIn order to show patience to my spouse, I bite my tongue rather than issue a sharp rebuke. No more honking at that "lame brain" at the stoplight. (Timmy: "Mommy, where are all the blithering idiots today?" Mommy:" Lucky for us they only come onto the road when your father is driving.")
Passive love. Withholding action. Letting people be themselves without criticism or fear. No more quick judgements, or snap decisions, or flying off the handle
This whole concept has spurred me to inaction ....righteous inaction that is. Done out of love.